That headline may seem contrary to everything I’ve written here on this blog so far, but it can be true. Let me clarify.
Affirmations don’t work if you don’t use them correctly. First, the tendency for the mind is to have a battle between the conscious and subconscious over what is true. If your affirmation is “I feel good about myself” and currently you don’t feel good about yourself, your mind will have a little tennis match with itself when you say your affirmation. Conscious mind: I feel good about myself. Subconscious mind: That’s not true, you suck.
Back and forth your mind will go. Yes I do, No you don’t!
Most often, we give up because the subconscious mind is more powerful than the conscious mind. So, we have to be determined to overcome the negative thinking. Say your affirmations every day for at least 30 days. More is better. Say them often, at least 3 times a day. More if you find yourself thinking the opposite of the affirmation more than you are saying the positive. Yes, it’s a struggle at first, but over time you will begin to believe what you are saying and then act that way.
Affirmations to build your self esteem really do work, but you have be willing to do the work and be patient. Just keep trying, you can change your life for the good if you do.
Your post is spot on. You need to start with an Affirmation that is not to far fetched. Once you believe that you work your way up until you reach your final goal. A great Tool to do that is using a ReflectAffirm Card. It puts your positive affirmation in front of you at all times while you drive your car and works on you contious but more importantly uncontious level. Very powerful. Try it here http://www.reflectaffirm.com
I have been looking into a lot of the scientific research behind affirmations and am now convinced that the most effective affirmations are “process affirmations” Ask your subconscious a question and it works like a laser-guided missile to find you an answer. For example: What can I do today to build my wealth? How can I build even greater self-esteem? Our minds truly do have the answers to virtually everything if we just ask for it’s help and become sensitive to it’s very intuitive answers.
Positive Affirmations: Starting small..it works! I chose the phrase “I am worth it!” and “Whatever it Takes” to start myself on the road to loving myself and changing some areas in my life. Saying it several times a day, especially when stressed or if things were difficult. When I first started it, I cried when asked if I loved myself because I couldn’t even think of the possibility…a few months later I can say I like me! I’m getting there. I’m ready to graduate on to more positive ideas.