Conversations with the Masters – Shakti Gawain

January 10, 2012

with Life Coach Mary

* Are you on a spiritual path of consciousness?

* Would you like to master the art of manifestation?

* How would you like to live a life in flow?

I wanted to share a quick, FREE opportunity to hop on a live call with one of the most influential leaders in consciousness — Shakti Gawain. There is no one better to delve into these topics and more!


My friend and colleague Mary Allen is host of the free teleseries called “Conversations with the Masters”. She has an interview coming up on Thursday, January 19th at 11am PT/2pm ET that is absolutely FREE for you… no strings attached.

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During This Interview They’ll Explore:

* What is creative visualization, how it works and how it can support you in creating a life you love!

* The 3 elements within you which determine how successfully creative visualization will work for you in any given situation.

* The importance of relaxation and inner peace in manifesting your desires.

* Relationships as mirrors and how to this dynamic to evolve.

* How to handle seemingly negative emotions like fear, sadness, grief, hurt, hopelessness and anger.

* How the dynamics of “victim” and “rescuer” may be influencing your life.

* Clearing blocks, accepting your good and expanding your ability to receive.

* How to trust and master your intuition.

* Living in the spiritual paradox — being here now while letting go of attachments AND setting goals and creating a life you want.
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About Shakti Gawain

Shakti Gawain is a bestselling author and a pioneer in the field of personal growth and consciousness. Her many books have sold more than ten million copies in over thirty-five languages worldwide, and she has facilitated thousands of individuals in developing greater awareness, balance, and wholeness in their lives. She has appeared on such nationally syndicated shows as Oprah, Good Morning America, and The Larry King Show and has been featured in Cosmopolitan, Time, and O magazines. Along with Marc Allen, Gawain co-founded New World Library in 1977. Through her seminars and her books, Shakti helps people heal and develop all levels of their being — spiritual, mental, emotional, physical — and access their intuitive inner wisdom. Sharing the ideas and practices that have helped her the most in her own life, she guides others on their path to living more consciously. She facilitates us in finding deeper meaning and purpose through developing our unique gifts and abilities.

Please join me is this unique opportunity to learn, first-hand, from one of the pioneers of this industry! You’ll be glad you did.
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Here’s to upping your inner peace in 2012!

P.S. I met Mary Allen at an event in 2010 and was immediately drawn to her. She has a beautiful spirit and is brilliant at helping people transform their lives. Be sure to get on this call, you’re going to absolutely love her!


Self Esteem Quote for Today

May 06, 2011

People can be more forgiving than you can imagine.
But you have to forgive yourself.
Let go of what’s bitter and move on.
– Bill Cosby

Autosuggestion Can Change Your Life

January 11, 2011

Have you ever paid attention to what you say to yourself? I’ll bet you a nickle it’s not always very nice. And I also bet you wouldn’t let anyone else talk to you the way you do!

Yes, it seems to be a bad habit for many of us (me included).

I catch myself saying some pretty awful stuff to myself. Even though I don’t always mean it (although sometimes I do), I don’t want to be those awful things.

Guess what?

I’m training myself to think and be those things, and if you’re doing this, you are too.
Napoleon Hill
So, I’ve been listening to “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill for about the 4th time and I’ve heard some things I didn’t hear before.  This idea of Autosuggestion really hit me this time. It’s what we call Affirmations basically. But it seems like there is more too it and it’s not just about money, it’s about everything you are that you don’t want to be!

The underlying principle behind this is:

… that any idea exclusively occupying the mind turns into reality, although only to the extent that the idea is within the realms of possibility. For instance, a person without hands will not be able to make them grow back. However, if a person firmly believes that his or her asthma is disappearing, then this may actually happen, as far as the body is actually able to physically overcome or control the illness. On the other hand, thinking negatively about the illness (ex. “I am not feeling well”) will encourage both mind and body to accept this thought.

– From Wikipedia

So now, I’m being very conscious about what I say to myself, both out loud and in my head. When I catch myself saying something like “You’re old”, I quickly turn it around to ” I feel young” and try and repeat that mantra several times daily. I want my reality to be, I feel young.

So I challenge you to do the same. Change what you say to yourself, be aware of what and who you want to be, then make it so.

Affirmations and The Law of Attraction – Part 1

November 29, 2010

So, you want to attract more money, a new “toy” or the perfect mate. If you want to change your outer world, you have to change your inner world first. How do you change your inner world? This is where affirmations come in to play.

Before you start creating your affirmations for attracting love, abundance or self esteem, you have to realize that you are NOT your past or current results. Your results are just an indicator of your past actions and feelings, and you can change this in short order.

Right now, you are acting out of the mental programming you have received up to this point in your life. Isn’t now a good time to change that? The first step is to accept responsibility for your life as it is and be willing to change your thinking, feelings and actions in order to create new, more desirable results for tomorrow.

To begin reconditioning and reprogramming your mind, you should start by writing down some of the negative thinking that is holding you back right now. Let’s start with money for this example (a pretty popular topic these days) but you can use any topic you wish.

Write down 3 negative thoughts you have about money. Here are a few examples to get you started, but I want you to write down your own.

  1. I never have enough money.
  2. Rich people are greedy.
  3. The economy is so bad right now.

Now, write down how each thought makes you feel. Again, here are some examples, but list your own feelings about your thoughts.

  1. I’m not worthy of having all the money I want. Making money is hard anyway.
  2. Rich people suck and I don’t want to suck. People with lots of money must  be cheating someone.
  3. I feel sick to my stomach when I think about the economy. I can’t get ahead with things being so bad out there.

Finally, write down the actions (or lack of actions) you take regarding these feelings.

  1. I don’t even try because I’ll fail anyway.
  2. I’d rather be broke and keep my integrity, so I’ll just stay where I am financially.
  3. When the recession is over, I will change the way I do things. People will spend more money then, so it will be worthwhile.

Now it’s time to write some positive affirmations that will help attract more money. By taking the original negative thoughts and turning them around, you can begin reprogramming your mind. Here’s what they might look like.

  1. I always have plenty of money to pay my bills and some left over to save.
  2. I attract abundance and I share my wealth with the world.
  3. I easily earn all the money I want to.

As you say each affirmation out loud, picture yourself living those statements and feel the feelings of having the results. For example, how does it feel to have plenty of money to pay your bills and have some left over? Pretty good I bet.

Practice saying your new money affirmations several times a day with emotion. Pretty soon you will begin to change the way you feel about money and your actions around earning money will change and then your results will change.  It’s a good idea to write in a journal as you go through this process  so you can see the progress you are making.

You can apply this process to anything you want to change, but I recommend you begin with something that isn’t most pressing. As you build confidence by achieving success, you can move on to more challenging changes you would like to see in your life.

More about Affirmations and the Law of Attraction in Part 2

High Self Esteem Leads to Truly Living Your Life

November 08, 2010

When you have healthy self esteem you are able to fully engage in your life and perhaps create miracles. Self acceptance is one key to building your self worth. You might as well love yourself because you take yourself with you where ever you go.

How do you work on it? It’s simple good in = good out. Your success in life stems from your perceptions of yourself, increasing your maximum confidence. Again you may wish to listen to some confidence building Cd’s, say affirmations or any number of other techniques available.  Beneath your outer cover, there is an essence of pure gold or light of who you are. You already have everything you need, to have all the joy and success you want.

Self Esteem Affirmations

Two out of three people suffer from low self esteem, so you are not alone, it’s a very common problem. Just image what the world would be like if everone felt good about themselves!

The demise of your personal value begins to decline soon after birth when your family starts telling you no you can’t do that, or “that’s bad” and even worse, “you’re bad”. That’s wrong, that was stupid, you’re not doing that right, and continues to get worse as you enter school and you get more negative feedback from teachers and the other kids around you.

Those other kids at school have learned the same bad habits of thinking from their families that you have. The attack rages on from authority figures the media, police, religious sources and a variety of other sources. It’s no wonder that by 5th grade only 20% of students have good self esteem. Did you do well in sports or get straight A’s? Or did you get hammered for failing or not doing well?

The pressure of pleasing others can be so overwhelming that taking the risk is often too great and we shrink back and avoid participating so we don’t get hurt or insulted or beat up.

Our self worth is down to 5% by the time we graduate high school. Everyone points to someone  else for the responsibility of our self esteem, but it comes down to personal responsibility in the end. It’s time to stop looking on the outside for the approval of others and start looking to yourself for the solutions. You can do it, it just takes some time and effort, you can succeed in feeling good about yourself. I’ve done it, so can you!

How you look at the things that “happen to you” makes a huge difference. You are not a victim, you are a participant in your own life. If you don’t like what has been created, it’s time to start creating a life you can love and feel joy about.

Healthy Self Esteem

What is self esteem? Loving yourself  just the way you are.
We are already lovable. We need to be nurtured, loved and have structure. You get to provide it for yourself. The hidden benefit is that you get exactly what you want and need. No need to rely on someone else reading your mind or disappointing you because YOU know exactly what you want already.

Did you hear this crap from your parents too?

Who do you think you are?
You’re never going to amount to anything.
I’m so disappointed in you!

Now it’s time to take back your own power by loving, nurturing and supporting yourself by becoming the parent you never had.  Even though your parents loved you, they may not have given the love or showed you love in the way you needed to received it. I know that’s my case. I have a really good relationship with my parents now, but it wasn’t always that way.

“We did the best we could” and “No one taught us how to be parents” just sounded like an excuse to me when I was younger and trying to cope with my  low self esteem, but as I grew older I began to realize that that was true. All they had was what they were taught by their parents and as I began to learn what that was, I better understood why they were like they were and why they did what they did.

Even if you can’t make reparations with your parents, you can heal you life and spirit. Just let go of the past, and begin to work on your present.

Start by writing down how you would have wanted to be spoken to and what you would have wanted to be told. Something like this:

  1. I love you, you are wonderful.
  2. You can do or be anything you want.
  3. You are really smart.

Now, write your list, say your affirmations to yourself out loud every day. Add to the list as you think of new things you wanted to hear from your parents, teachers, friends or loved ones.

You are on your way to a new life.

“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” Dr. Wayne Dyer

Why Affirmations Don’t Work

October 29, 2010

That headline may seem contrary to everything I’ve written here on this blog so far, but it can be true. Let me clarify.

Affirmations don’t work if you don’t use them correctly. First, the tendency for the mind is to have a battle between the conscious and subconscious over what is true. If your affirmation is “I feel good about myself” and currently you don’t feel good about yourself, your mind will have a little tennis match with itself when you say your affirmation. Conscious mind: I feel good about myself. Subconscious mind: That’s not true, you suck.

Back and forth your mind will go. Yes I do, No you don’t!

Most often, we give up because the subconscious mind is more powerful than the conscious mind. So, we have to be determined to overcome the negative thinking. Say your affirmations every day for at least 30 days. More is better. Say them often, at least 3 times a day. More if you find yourself thinking the opposite of the affirmation more than you are saying the positive. Yes, it’s a struggle at first, but over time you will begin to believe what you are saying and then act that way.

Affirmations to build your self esteem really do work, but you have be willing to do the work and be patient. Just keep trying, you can change your life for the good if you do.

Affirmations for Self Esteem Video

October 06, 2010

I’ve just created this video with some affirmations for a quick self esteem boost.

I’ve paired some images with the affirmations to help you visualize the words.

Remember to feel the emotions you want as you watch the video. If you like, you can repeat the affirmations out loud as the movie plays.

Please let me know what you think by leaving your comments below.

Boost Confidence Subliminal CD

October 05, 2010

Supercharge your self confidence boost and discover you have what it takes to live a fulfilled, exciting life!

Using subliminal CDs to boost your self confidence can be an easy method for change. I’m working on a few and will share with you soon.

How To Use Your Affirmations

September 21, 2010

The other day I was talking to one of my friends, and she mentioned that her counselor suggested she start using affirmations to help her make some changes in her life.

I said “Cool! I happen to know something about writing and using affirmations”.

We spent some time coming up with her affirmations and wrote a few that would get her started”

Then she said “How do I use them, and how do I remember to say them?”

Good question! Here’s what I suggested.


Write down your affirmations on 3 or 4 index cards. Put one on your nightstand, one in your purse, one on the dashboard of your car and the last one where ever you think you will see it every day. When you get in the car, pick up the card and say your affirmations out loud. When you are looking for something in your purse, pull out the card and say your affirmations, if you are in a crowd, you can say them to yourself so people don’t think you’re nuts. Before you go to bed, pick up that card off your nightstand and say your affirmations outloud again.

Next I asked if she had a bathroom mirror? She said yes! Perfect! Get some dry erase markers and write your affirmations on the mirror. When you go the get ready in the morning, read them out loud while looking at yourself in the mirror. Don’t worry if your family hears you, they’ll learn the new message about you as well.

So, that’s a simple way to imprint your new life changing thoughts on your conscious and sub-conscious mind. Say them several times daily, and you’ll start seeing results in short order.

Self Hypnosis Techniques to Build Self Esteem

August 30, 2010

There are a number of self hypnosis techniques that you can use for a variety of purposes, including building your self esteem. You may consider several or just one of the techniques to use on yourself depending on what you think will be the most effective for you.

You may need to review each technique mentioned here and consider the way you “think” first before deciding on which method will work best for you.

The easiest and most common technique is by using a self hypnosis CD or mp3. These can be purchased in a number of places online or in stores. Some services offer you the ability to create your own self hypnosis CD or you can even create your own at home. If you already have been practicing your self esteem affirmations, you may be fine with listening to your own voice during the self hypnosis session, or you may prefer the sound of someone else’s voice. You should choose the option which is more likely to help you absorb the suggestions.

Another technique is using subliminal CDs. These are recordings in which the suggestions or affirmations are delivered at a level where your subconscious mind can hear and absorb them, but your conscious mind barely hears them. Subliminal means below the threshold of your conscious mind to perceive.  Audio stimuli may be played below audible volumes or masked by
other stimuli like music or binaural beats

There is also the Ericksonian Hypnosis Method that can be very effective for a people who are very self aware. This technique uses little stories or metaphors to help reduce or eliminate one’s conscious resistance to suggestions or the desired change. To use this method on yourself, look for audio CDs that incorporate this highly effective “indirect” method.

The last option I will talk about here is Neuro Linguistic Programming or NLP. You may have heard about it if you have done any personal growth work. “The basic premise of NLP is that the words we use reflect an inner, subconscious perception of our problems. If these words and perceptions are inaccurate, as long as we continue to use them and to think of them, the underlying problem will persist. In other words, our attitudes are, in a sense, a self-fulfilling prophecy.” – There are a variety of NLP programs available to purchase, and you may also choose to work with an NLP practitioner.

No matter what self hypnosis technique you decide to use, it’s important that you read or listen to the instructions given, and follow them exactly. If you find that one technique is not working for you after a reasonable time, try another. Change can take time and sometimes you may not see the changes as you go through the process. I suggest keeping a journal and writing down your thought and experiences as you go. When you look back, you may be very happily surprised!